They Make Excuses<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\nEmotionally draining people will continually make excuses for their behavior and whilst it may be the case that they\u2019ve experienced some horrific events, it is important to note that you can only help someone as far as they\u2019re willing or wanting to help themselves. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
You can carefully and kindly suggest that they seek medical help and counselling for their problems but if they aren\u2019t willing to do so, then this can become draining as they\u2019ll continually complain about the same things without taking any action to make positive changes within their life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
So how do we deal with an emotionally draining person? The first step is realizing that we all have the capacity to be emotionally burdensome. We all experience emotions and we should try to remove our judgement or own sense of one-upmanship from the situation. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Once we can establish that our own heart and mind is in the right place, then we can be self-assured enough to place the relevant boundaries in place without feeling overwhelmingly guilty. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
This is often called \u2018tough love\u2019 or \u2018love from afar\u2019 as we can still care about these individuals without needing to become embroiled in their negativity. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
The difference between someone who experiences intense emotions and makes proactive changes to overcome them and those who are completely unwilling to do so will be the key indicator as to whether you should distance yourself from this person. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Self care is imperative to maintaining your own physical and mental health and this should be at the forefront of all of your decision making. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
We live in an era where we are continually overwhelmed by the media and images of horror and fear and thus, maintaining our own spiritual health is so important. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
If you are leaving any situation where you feel completely exhausted, this will have a direct impact on your immunity and metabolism and you will be less likely to achieve your own vitality and therefore pass your own burdens onto someone else. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
This is why distancing yourself from someone cannot be done from a pedestaled place. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
We are all capable of acting in emotionally draining ways, however some people are hardwired to be more toxic and narcissistic than others and these people will be those who repetitively employ negative and damaging behavior without any regard for the feelings or wellbeing of those around them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Your own emotions are your best guide, if your own anxiety levels are heightened around these individuals, you dread their company or you\u2019re continually belittled by them, then you definitely need to cut ties entirely. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Life is far too precious to spend time with those who are not supportive of your own wellbeing, desires and dreams. Far too often, you\u2019ll also come across those who pertain to being spiritually well (or even gurus in their chosen spiritual field) whilst being incredibly narcissistic in their intentions. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Covert narcissism is the perfect breeding ground for emotionally draining people as their insistence on \u2018helping you\u2019 is all about making themselves look a certain way. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
These people are also experts in \u2018love bombing\u2019 you and then withdrawing that love and chastising you within the same hour and their gaslighting will leave you feeling drained and confused, especially if this person is well received by other people. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
That is why it is crucial that you are practicing self love and have a firm grasp of your own self awareness so that you are better able to trust your instincts and make judgments from a place of truth. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
You\u2019ll instinctively know when someone is draining or belittling you, even if they seem wonderful to others, and you should cut ties accordingly. Emotional vampires aren\u2019t always the obvious type so stay safe, build firm boundaries and foundations, and above all, stay true to yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n